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The art of growing apart and together.

How have you been doing?
After the lockdown a friend reached out and asked. And I gave the general ‘very well, thank you’ reply.
Then I realized I’ve evaded the question for almost a year.
When ‘Ylaw told me I was too conservative, that people hardly know what’s up with me, I knew he was right.
Can you blame me? Half the time people only want to hear what I’m doing, not how I’m doing. Which is cool. I just got tired of talking, or in this case typing.
So, I got used to the general replies.
I’m conservative, yes. But the people who know me know what’s up.
And that’s more than enough.
We don’t talk as much as the ones always curious about me, but when we do it’s mind blowing.
Conversations that make you feel like not a day has gone by.
Or like you’ve been talking daily nonstop.
That’s what I look forward too.
Once I used to feel guilty about not talking to friends on a steady. It worried me because half the time I had nothing to say.
But ‘Ylaw said it’s normal. All you’ve to do is get in touch. Sometimes, it’s just a simple hi, or you could talk business. That’s a general topic now.
‘Ylaw did mention it could be once a month, or once in 2 months. Or sometimes once a year. The idea is to catch up.
So, to you who’s feeling bad about abandoning your friends, don’t. It happens when the elements of distance and responsibility come into play.
Then again if you’re curious about what I’m doing, check my socials. That should tell you a bit, or not.

For the love of books.

Writers and authors are wickedly creative.
They suck your soul deep into a world they create,with distinguished characters you’ll love or hate,make them do questionable things for unknown reasons,take you on emotional roller-coasters and give  unexpected ending that leaves you needing more. And more.
I love stories, I’m sure I always have.
All my life, I’ve known authors and I’ve known authors.
There exists the regular ones, with cliché stories and endings.
There’s the unexpected.
The inquisitive.
Then there’s the infuriating.
I was 17 when I met my first unexpected author. She killed the best character. I cried, and for days I wasn’t sure how my life would go on. But it did.
Then I met more.
And now, I can’t even categorize them anymore.
SJM has lovely and awesome characters you’ll wish dead at some point. (I’m talking about the bad guy enjoying being bad with a good hidden agenda). PS; her stories are a whole new world.
Then there’s TD, I’ve never loved horrors like his. They’re the kind of books I’d read over again and wish I didn’t when I’m done.
CH, she takes young adult to a whole new level. And for every book she has, there’s always a character to connect with.
What about SS? There’s no author as infuriating as him. Even late, his works still torments me in impossible ways.
Let me talk CNA, phenomenal. One book was all it took.
DS and NR always believe in love. Finding it and being found at any stage, point or age in life. I guess they make love look intelligent.
I could keep going, but I’m not sure there’s enough verbs to distinguishly describe such species. They are one of a kind.
So, show appreciation and respect to one today, because there’s a whole new universe in their minds.

Excerpt from the diary of a cancerous chick.

Dear Luc’, have I told you how handsome you look today? You make our uniform so special.
Dear Luc’, you’ve always been a natural, you make contact-sports sexy.
Dear Luc’, today you left my side to chill with Ella and her friends. That hurt, alot.
Dear Luc’, I missed you today. Hospitals suck.
Dear Luc’, you promised to save me a dance at graduation. I guess you forgot because this time, Munirat stole my dance.
Dear Luc’, I’m leaving. Dad says Schools abroad are better and a lot more educative in practical, so I’ve to leave. I’ll be missing you, and will probably see you in every guy I meet. I hope you think of me, even once a week will do.
I took a walk this evening and thought I’d check you online. My mistake. You’re getting married, oh Luc’.

Dear Lucas, it’s what everyone calls you now. It was our 10 year reunion, and I should question how you went from the boy of my dreams to the man of reality. I guess I haven’t changed much.
Oh Lucas, I felt like I could do anything when you asked to see a movie together. Like I could be whomever I wanted. I loved our talks, reminiscing about how you picked on me because I was always moody, about how we’d often study together and help each other,about the days you walked me to the bustop after lessons because “it was late and you were being a gentleman “.

Today we had a serious argument. About why I couldn’t make it to our anniversary dinner. I should let you know before this gets serious, but we’re only just starting and what if……

Lucas, today you walked away,because you fell out of love. Or because of the secrets. I’ll never know. But I’ll never forget you. You gave me the best 17 months of my life. And I hope you find one who gives you your best eternity.

My dear Lucas, you should know I tried. Really hard but failed. But the cells became metastatic, and all I had was time. Time well spent. I saw your family, and I knew I’d given you something more than love. If you see this, woe not. Arduous as it was, I lived my best life, and I’d change nothing if I could.

Foods

He wasn’t popular. But the whole world could see he was draped in love and respect.
He was happy. Or so we thought.
Someone as gay as him shouldn’t be real.
But everyone has the right hobgoblin. They could decide to feed it, or starve it.
If your body aches, you let it rest right?
If you’re hungry, you get food.
And if you’re restless without reason?
If you’re the crotchety type?
I’m already thinking you need physical, mental, maybe social and spiritual foods.
Almost everyone sees the physical and knows what to feed it and when.
You can’t see the spiritual, so get a lot closer to your God and His words. It’s that easy.
Sometimes, you just need to speak to one person. Do it. Try trends on Twitter and Instagram, that helps alot more. Or, you could be in need of a crowd, find one or make one.
You’ll probably never know it’s mental, just that you’re feeling way off and the locus of  concentration seems equidistant but sequestered. Just stop whatever you’re doing. Step out, get some fresh air into your lungs, welcome the heat of the sun. You could take a walk, long or short. Whichever makes you feel better. You could try running too. Maybe a movie. Get a new playlist or upgrade your old. At this point, I’m sure you need to do something you’re not used to. If you’re not a reader, you can try a book for once.
If you have money to spend, spoil yourself silly as a one-time gift.
For a change, strike a conversation with a chatty stranger. Don’t go telling your secrets and struggles, try light topics. Like banking issues, political cruise or even the weather.
The point is, your mind is tired of your regular routine.
Just like a sick person who seems to be getting sicker, until she sweats or expends alot of energy. Then she suddenly recovers.
So, whenever you feel the claws closing in on you, try something new or feed the old properly. Sometimes that’s all it takes.

Givings

Dear human, do not be dismayed with not tithing in church. It’s not a sin of any kind.
You who receives allowance on a regular, fear not. It’s a tenth of your gains.
Once I was fortunate to discuss tithing with a catholic. It was indeed enlightening. We quoted Bible verses and respected men of God,until he clarified.
The church isn’t imperative to tithing. Don’t get me wrong, it’s all-important, not extremely compulsory.
Its imperative to the house of God.
The people make the church, God resides in his people. Hence the church becomes the house of God.
Then there’s the overly blessed people. There’s the people Sola Owonibi called ‘homeless not hopeless’
There’s also where you get your spiritual satisfaction from.
To be laconic, the ‘house’ varies because I believe He is disparate in his ways.
“Take your tenth to God’s house or where you get spiritual satisfaction”,to quote the catholic. He further said, it doesn’t have to be the exact tenth.
There’s the orphanage, the cleaner in your company, the security in your office building, the part-timer always looking to work extra hours, the elderly lady who runs errands for your company. There’s always more.
Sometimes, it’s your parents.
For you were created one way with many gifts. Use them.
When your gains come around, remember the person who cleans your desk every morning, remember the woman always worshipping her creator when you resume work daily, remember the boy  who cleans your yard every week. Theirs is also the House of God.
Its never about the tenth, it’s always about the attitude. Even if it’s a fifth, your manner in giving is what counts.

Who am I?

At a very young age, I found my love for words. With unsure friends and away from family, I needed a companion. So I choose the pen. From my diary to poems and to irregular writeups, now I try to make sense of random words that would have been my diary into writeups.
Music, books, infuriating authors, writers, photography, society, school, religion, lifestyle, families, enemies, movies. Everything in between these and more shall I pen about.
As for my lionization for challenges, I’d love to conjoin with anyone, contrasting or not.

Everything from faith and in-between

I looked at him and thought, if he had all the money he’d ever needed, he probably won’t be this pained… Maybe.
But it’s an issue money can’t solve… Maybe ever.
Times like this, loyalties are questioned. Faiths are shaken to test for strength.
Why??
They say the same hand that giveth, taketh.
Or they’d say “it’s just a phase”.
I’m well aware he won’t ever give us more than we can handle.
But sometimes I wonder, why is it really important that we breakdown and crush before real help comes?.
Why is it always darkest before dawn?.
Why does He always make the possible appear so impossible…..??!
Why.
But I found answers.
He used dry bones,
Water,
Flood.
I guess we could say he’s never late, Fashionably on-time????
Yeah.
Laz had to die, and even begin to decay before we saw Him.
Those people had to die, for Eze to raise his army.
It had to seem like the end of the world, for a new and better world.
He manifests like that.
It’s really pointless to question…
I guess the whole point is for us to actually realize how minute and irrelevant we are….. Without Him.
The summary is for you not to do it or anything.
Because in all honesty, you didn’t have to do a thing.
What happened to faith????
The deal is for you to reach that breaking point… Or crushing point.
He made you… For himself.
So why the hell would you think “You”??!!
If you never get to the point where you’re tired and just surrender….
You’re probably living blindly.
He likes his exploitations magnificent and loud….cuz therein lies your testimony.
Next time it’s hard….
Next time it’s impossible….
Next time you’re fighting…..
Remember, it’s not your battle….
It’s the Lord’s

@writerjolaade

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus your own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus your own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus your own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.